Judges 16:6 – “So Delilah said to Samson, “Please tell me where your great strength lies, and with what you may be bound to afflict you.” NKJV
If you read my previous blog, “Flee Delilah”, then you already know that Delilah is not God’s perfect will for any of us. He doesn’t want us to marry the Philistine whose heart is not towards Him and who is oftentimes sent by the enemy to bring destruction in our lives. Having said that, what do I do if I am already married to Delilah?
Well, first and foremost, you probably need to spend some time repenting to the Lord. Your Delilah, if it was the case of a Delilah and not a “chameleon” hasn’t changed. Let me explain. A chameleon would have hidden his or her true motives and character from you, making your “choice” one that you could say “I didn’t know” about them. Where as, the Delilah would never hide. You knew from the beginning who that person was and yet you married that individual anyway. You are as responsible for your situation as Samson was. Therefore, you need to repent before the Lord.
After repenting, you need the counsel of God. Spending time in His word, His Presence, or becoming a responsible member of a faith teaching church will be necessary in moving forward. Even if you have already been considering divorce, you still need to redirect your heart and affections to the Lord before making this life altering decision. But here is why I chose this topic today. As I completed my last blog, I heard in my spirit, “Oh no! I’ve married my Delilah!” And I thought, I don’t want people to think that I am encouraging them to get a divorce. Divorce doesn’t have to be the answer. There’s another way!
Years ago, in a couples fellowship, where we gathered to discuss what the Bible teaches regarding marriage and to be with other couples, I heard an amazing testimony. Now because it was some time ago, I won’t remember all the details, but I remember the impact it had on my marriage.
The couple hosting the fellowship showed a video of Andrew Wommack sharing this testimony. This lady worked in a grocery store. A customer somehow developed an interest in her, I believe he even told her that they were supposed to get married. He was into all kinds of stuff, but mostly demon worship. They got married and during the course of the marriage, his experiences with demonic manifestations increased. Even to the point of him leaving his body. Well, one night he tried to kill her. The police was called and things were bad. I believe her neighbor was a member of Brother Andrew’s church and somehow he was called to the scene. When he got there he began to talk to her about her options, one of which was trusting God to work the situation out. She decided to trust God with her situation. I wish I remembered all the details! But here’s the point: God saved that couple and turned that marriage around and I believe he became a pastor or evangelist. Now that’s deliverance! As a young wife, I decided that nothing could ever get that bad in my marriage, so I had no excuse to ever entertain thoughts of divorce.
Even in the midst of our mess ups, God can bring victory and total deliverance. That’s what He did for Samson. In his mess, God allowed his hair to grow and he brought greater destruction on the Philistines in the end than he had in his lifetime. I don’t think God wants all of our answers of victory to end in our demise. As a matter of fact, I’m pretty sure that He doesn’t. He’s a good, good God! And His mercies endure forever!
Don’t think there is no hope for you, your marriage, or your future. Jesus has promised that He is our Blessed Hope! If you can believe that He can turn this situation around, then you will have to trust Him to do it. You may go through some more difficult times and even feel like giving up, but He can turn it around! He has strategies untold and in His Presence are the answers that you need.
I’ve seen marriages restored. Not because of the Delilah syndrome, maybe more of the chameleon syndrome. But the marriages were not good. But God is! And I have seen Him do the impossible with the impossible situations and make them the better!
I’ve seen divorces. I’ve seen few people rejoice over a divorce. It’s hard on the family, on the couple, on friendships, and especially on a church body. But it some times can’t be avoided for a variety of reasons. I don’t believe in divorce, I’m not advocating divorce, but I’ve supported loved ones through the process and know that some people absolutely refuse to allow the Holy Spirit to work in their lives. That’s their choice to make. I’m just making the point that I am not encouraging you to divorce your Delilah! That’s between you and the Father!
But should you choose to believe God in the midst of everything that is happening, you will need fortification for the battle. And it will be a battle. But with Him, who can be against you. There’s hope for Delilah! And you just have to trust God that He will deliver you and your Delilah and give you a brighter tomorrow! Wonderful Jesus!