Judges 16:6 – So Delilah said to Samson, “Please tell me where your great strength lies, and with what you may be bound to afflict you.” NKJV
Let me begin by stating that Samson is mentioned in the hall of faith chapter in Hebrews. So even though he got it wrong, he got it right! That is an encouragement right there! But in today’s blog I want to address the single people who read my blog and what Samson got so wrong!
In this verse, Samson is a grown man. He’s had many victories in his life as well as many defeats. He is judging Israel, defending them from the Philistines, over and over again, but he does some really “dumb” things along the way. Some of those things, scripture tells us, was divinely led even in their acts of stupidity, but it just goes to show that God can use us just as we are to accomplish great things.
The thing I want to address today is Delilah’s and Samson’s relationship. I want to start out by saying, it was a horrible relationship! He is definitely unequally yoked. He has a calling on his life and she is a prostitute. That’s equivalent to the saved individual getting attached to the unsaved individual. This is the start of a bad situation that keeps getting worst.
The scripture doesn’t enlighten us as to how long they were together before she started nagging him, but nag him she did. She was an instrument of the devil to bring his life to an end. And the really sad part of this whole scenario, she didn’t make it a secret! What’s up with that? How do you spend time with someone who makes no bones about the fact that they are truly not interested in your well being, whether it is by their words or actions?
Delilah went straight to the heart of the matter. She first asked him to tell her what makes him strong and then how can he be bound that he might be afflicted? Shall I translate that it today’s vernacular? What makes you anointed and how do I destroy that anointing in your life that I might destroy you? Whoa!! Or, are you a virgin because my thing is that I like being the first of the women I date?! Or, do you have a house and a job, my women have to be able to show me that they don’t need my money? That’s pretty shocking to me to think that she boldly asks him this question and he doesn’t see it as a sign that he needs to run! Nope! Not Samson! Because he thought that he was invincible and that nothing could hurt him. He thought that he could toy forever with sin and still walk in the anointing. Again I ask, “what’s up with that?”
Christian singles!! Don’t sell yourself or your God short! Yes, God used him and he ended up in the hall of faith, because in the end he humbled himself and died with his enemies. But I can’t believe that was God’s plan for his life! Something good came out of something ugly, but it didn’t have to be. You are precious to God and He wants to give you the best life that you can have. But you are going to have to trust your relationships to Him and live by His guidelines in the word to make that happen!
I was dating a young man who asked me a question (of course this was many years ago). He asked, “What would you do if you got pregnant for me?” My response to him was, “I’m not going to get pregnant for you so there’s nothing to discuss!” He said, “No, seriously! What would you do?” See, this young man was testing me to see if I was open to the idea of having sex with him. He was letting me know this by his question. I had to shut that mess down! I told him that in order for me to get pregnant for him, we would have to have sex, and since we weren’t going to have sex, the question was pointless! I dissolved the relationship!
I don’t believe that people fall into sexual sin. I believe that we put ourselves in a position to get involved in sexual sin. One young lady was asked by a guy to go out with him. She told him that people date for sex and marriage. She didn’t want either with him! Delilah told Samson what she wanted. His destruction. She spelled it out for him. And instead of him shutting it down by leaving and not returning to visit her, he just kept going back and playing the game until it got his eyes put out and eventually brought his demise. Dating the wrong person can be so detrimental to the believer. It is so important that male or female, as believers, learn to walk away from ungodly relationships that the enemy sends to bring destruction and devastation in their lives.
Maybe your Delilah isn’t out to kill you. But your Delilah could most certainly be sent from the devil to destroy you. And your Delilah could draw you from the Lord. Evil communications still corrupt good morals. It’s interesting how the word repeatedly let us know that in a relationship that is unequally yoked, we would be more inclined to be led astray than for us to win that person to the Lord? Missionary dating is a bad plan. Watch the person get saved, live for God, then you can take a chance on dating.
Your Delilah could use you, break your heart, leave with a child to raise alone, and never look back. Your Delilah could use you to take advantage of free rent, the benefits of “marriage” without the commitment, and then take your possessions. You just don’t know! But the saddest thing is that your Delilah is not God’s best plan for your life. He could turn it around and use it for His glory, He’s good like that! But He’d rather you just flee the Delilahs that come along.
Over and over again, she let Samson know she was no good. When a person lies to you over and over again, that’s not a good relationship, flee Delilah! When a person hits you over and over again, that’s not a good relationship, flee Delilah! When a person stands you up over and over again, that’s not a good relationship, flee Delilah! When a person pressures you over and over again to drink, to do drugs, to have sex, to give them money, or any number of things these are your clues that you are in a situation just like Samson was with Delilah. This is your clue you need to run for the hills and thanking God for the strength to do so. It’s where your help is!
You will not be the lucky one that makes it out on the other side with no side effects. You will not win that kind of person to the Lord. No matter how many Christian romance books you read that say differently. You need to break that ungodly tie and trust God with a mate that is for you.
Is that hard? Yes! Does that mean that you might be without a mate for a while, or forever? That’s a real possibility! But it’s better to be single and whole, with your relationship with God in tact, then to be broken time and time again because you just couldn’t walk away anymore than Samson could. I don’t get Samson, and I don’t get staying in a relationship that’s a train wreck waiting to happen. Love yourself and God enough to walk away while you still can. He’s there to be your Way to a better relationship in Him. Wonderful Jesus!